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Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill

Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill, BACP

United Kingdom 5 years in practice

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Counsellor - relationships and grief

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  • Attachment approach
  • Emotionally focused work
  • Client centred

About Nicola

Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill is a counsellor registered with the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) with five years' experience. She works mainly with stress, anxiety, relationship difficulties, grief and trauma, and life changes. Sessions focus on improving communication, managing difficult feelings, and finding clearer direction in day-to-day life.

Nicki uses several relational approaches to help people understand patterns that keep causing pain. She draws on attachment-based ideas to look at how early bonds affect current relationships. Emotionally-Focused Therapy ideas are used when the focus is on close relationships and repairing connection.

Her style is conversational and reflective. She listens for recurring interaction patterns and helps people name feelings. Practical coping strategies are introduced alongside time to make sense of painful experiences such as bereavement and trauma.

Nicki also uses client-centred and existential perspectives to explore personal values and meaning. This can help when people feel stuck after a life change or when questions about purpose arise. She adapts pacing to what each person can manage in the moment.

People come to her for a mix of short-term work and longer exploration. Typical issues include anxiety, depression, addiction concerns, parenting stresses, anger, low self-esteem and relationship conflict. She is open to working with international clients and holds sessions in English.

Sessions are offered through a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time. Prospective clients are asked to complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule a first session to begin.

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How her approaches translate to online work

Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationships shape current emotional responses. In online sessions this helps people notice patterns in close relationships and practise different ways of relating. Emotionally-Focused Therapy focuses on recognising and naming emotions within relationships. Online sessions can be used to explore difficult conversations and to rehearse new interaction steps in real time.

Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will work with each person to agree which methods to use, based on their goals, needs and preferences. This is a collaborative process and can be revisited as therapy progresses.

The original biography does not specify particular session formats, so confirm the available options before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy week, reduce travel time and allow shorter check-ins when needed. It can also allow sessions without being on camera if that helps with concentration or energy levels.

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Areas of expertise

Also works with

AddictionsFamily conflictsGriefIntimacy-related issuesParenting issuesAnger managementSelf esteemCareer difficultiesBipolar disorderDepressionCoaching

Additional focus areas

AbandonmentAttachment issuesAvoidant personalityCodependencyCommitment issuesCommunication problemsDrug and alcohol addictionEmptinessFamily problemsFatherhood issuesGuilt and shameHospice and end-of-life counselingImpulsivityInfidelityLife purposeMidlife crisisMood disordersNarcissismObsessions, compulsions, and OCDPanic disorder and panic attacksPersonality disordersPost-traumatic stressProcess addiction (porn, exercise, gambling)Sexual assault and abuseSocial anxiety and phobiaWorkplace issuesYoung adult issues

Therapeutic approaches

Attachment-Based TherapyClient-Centered TherapyEmotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)Existential TherapyGottman MethodImago Relationship TherapyMindfulness TherapyPsychodynamic TherapySolution-Focused TherapyTrauma-Focused TherapyInternal Family Systems

Experience

5+ years

Listed in

United Kingdom

Languages

English

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Frequently asked questions

What concerns does she help with?

She works with stress, anxiety, relationship problems, trauma and abuse, grief, addiction issues and life transitions among other concerns.

What is her therapeutic style?

She blends attachment-based, client-centred and emotionally-focused methods. The work is conversational, reflective and focused on feelings and interaction patterns.

How much experience does she have?

She has five years of clinical experience supporting people with a range of emotional and relational issues.

What credentials and location apply?

She is a BACP-registered counsellor practising from the United Kingdom.

Which languages and international arrangements are available?

Sessions are offered in English and she accepts international clients.

What session formats are used?

The biography does not list specific session formats; please confirm the current session options before booking.

How are sessions charged?

Sessions use a subscription model that can be cancelled at any time, and costs vary with location.

How do I begin working with her?

Use the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.

Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger, use the urgent help numbers.

Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill

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